9to9 Girls: meet Evodie

9to9Girls are short portraits of strong and creative women who have all, in their own rights and on their own terms defined what a successful life was to them. They are my friends, artists, influencers, business owners and much more. They are my source of motivation and inspiration in business and in life, and I cannot wait for you to meet them all. And to lead the pack, I thought I’d get personal too. So meet me: Ev, Editor in Chief and co-founder of 9to9Daily; Product Manager by day, and co-founder of ReCollections Candles - the new personalised scented candles brand that will make you step into memory lane and better your daily selfcare routine.

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What is the thing you love most about yourself?

I usually focus on what I´d love to change about myself. Choosing to look at the positives is actually a much more difficult exercise. But I would pick my unfailing determination. If I am determined to do something, you better be sure I will go and do it.

What holds you back in life?

My fear of lacking. Lacking financially, emotionally, physically. I once heard ‘never base a decision on fear’. I think this is the greatest advice one could give.

What advice would you give your 23 year-old self?

I would try to tell her gently that things do work out. Yes, the road can be longer and bumpier than you expected, but it does straighten out  and eventually makes sense. Trust the journey and stop focusing on the destination.

Also, it is never too late to change direction.

The right guy will come. Stop selling yourself short.

Quit these blond highlights!!!

My life is successful because...

I have met true love. I know what it is to be loved and cherished unconditionally, despite my flaws. I have a united family. I have options. I have seen the world.

What is always in your bag from 9 to 9?

Hmm... let's look. I currently carry a lilac DAY Birger et Mikkelsen weekend bag. I also recently bought an old city bike that takes me everywhere, which means I tend to pack everything in the basket including my gym clothes and some trainers. But essentials are: my iPhone and some headphones (I am a podcast junkie), a pair of sun-glasses (lately some oversized Dior Wild or my Roma obnoxious bling acetate Gucci ones that my boyfriend hates); two makeup essentials: lipstick and a bronzer (H&M carries a great one!); my Moleskin and a pen; some hand-cream (flavour of the month) and my bright-happy-pink Gucci wallet that weights far too much! I also try and carry water at all times.

What did you dream to become growing up?

Ha, there have been a lot of different phases and a lot of different career dreams! Most vividly, I remember wanting to be special, to make a mark; whatever that meant. But job wise, I had clear dreams of being a horse breeder, a detective, a spy, an archeologist and of course... Joan of Arc!

What is women empowerment to you?

It is letting go of the idea that our self-worth is defined by others, that our voids should be filled by others, that there are limits to what one woman can achieve. It is for a woman to know- regardless of her education and background- that she is enough. 

3 women who have marked your life and why.

My mother. In good and in bad, the person that I am today has been hugely influenced by her. Only now do I realise and appreciate the journey she was on as a stay at home mother of four, and the legacy her education has been for be. Through her model I became a more gentle, generous soul, a better loving partner - and know how to throw a got damn dinner party!

My French teacher in my last year of high-school. She was the one woman who taught me to dream bigger, to listen to my instincts and trust my craft. With her I opened my arisen, I discovered a lush world of Literature and culture and sensuality and History through words. I became more worldy, I pushed myself harder and I stopped trying to please my parents. I will ever be grateful to her for convincing them to move me to Paris, for the incredible boost of confidence her praises and bold advices were and still are.

Queen Victoria. Hahah. Nerd attack, hello! But I have a genuine interest and reverence for who she was, and what she did and the obvious struggles she went through and out of. To this day, I believed I have read three autobiographies and most likely exhausted any documentary and movies ever made about her. 

There are obviously so many others, my dear friends, the authors that have nourished my soul, my sister who I love immensely and more!

How do you create your personal chamber?

I am the sort of person who needs time alone here and then. Long walks are my favourite means of daily meditation. I am known to be a walker. Under an hour commute? I´ll walk! It´s when and where I can think and daydream and reflect and let go of anxious thoughts. Spending alone time at the gym is also a time that I look forward to. It´s the pure physicality of it that I love. It´s the awareness of the breath, of the muscles, of the sweat as I push myself, and the sole company of my own body. But my bathroom is also my little sanctuary. I am a huuuge morning and night long-shower addict (and environmentally not so friendly on that occasion), happy podcast on speakers and beauty routine lover.

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What is your self-care routine?

I try to eat as healthy as possible, and I personally need to exercise or move every day. But self-care routine to me, is also a mental focus. I try to surround myself with the things that make me feel wholesome and peaceful; and equally try to let go of stressful situations, media or people. I love to start the day on high-spirits with our ritual breakfast at our dinning table- this sets the tone for the day. And I love ending the day with a good laughter and chat with my man in bed, followed by few pages of whatever book I might be reading. This might also involve some hot tea and burning candle in the corner. I have started to embrace my needs and the feeling of the moment rather than following all the trivial and operational things that I ought to be doing.

Listening to yourself, that is self-care to me.